Husband’s Negativity is Positivity to Him

My husband speaks with a strong, harsh tone, uses harsh, sometimes biting words, and talks a lot about the things in the world he doesn’t like. To me it sounds like he is angry, it sounds like he is mean, and it sounds like he complains often. When I tell him how it feels and sounds to me, he says he is not angry, mean, or complaining. He says he is just talking. I can’t figure out if he is living his 50/50 in his bliss bubble, or he is gaslighting me, but it doesn’t often feel good to me. It’s a bizarre dilemma of trying to figure him out. I can choose, of course, not to talk with him, but what kind of relationship would that be? LOL