Hi Coaches,

I am hoping you can help me with some thoughts that I could use to build towards feeling worthy and lovable right now. My brain wants to tell me that the things that I have accomplished “don’t count” and that what I REALLY need to be worthy is to be toned and slender as well as beautiful. I am about 30 pounds overweight right now and I notice that I am in a huge rush to “get there” so I can “be good enough.” I am proud that I’m seeing that this is a sign that I need to take a look at my thoughts, but it feels so true (the thought that I need to do more work to earn my worth).

Here are some models:
C – 6 years of sobriety, job that pays 6 figures, several friends reached out to congratulate me.
T – That’s great but you haven’t lost that weight yet and that’s the real thing that you need to be worthwhile
F – Hopeless
A – Create a protocol that’s extremely rigid, struggle with hunger and then overeat for 2-3 days so my weight yo-yo’s up and down, overthink my protocol, search for “new plans” on the internet, try to figure out how to be certain that I’ll lose fat and not just get thinner.
R – Don’t lose weight and reinforce that I’ll never be worthy by that yardstick

Intentional model:
C – 6 years of sobriety, job that pays 6 figures, several friends reached out to congratulate me.
T – I am so grateful for all that I’ve accomplished and excited about continuing to develop into the best version of myself.
F – Grateful
A – Calmly look at what else I might want to do.
R – Continue to develop

Intentional model around fitness
C – Weight = 181 pounds
T – I’m figuring out how to get to my fittest possible body
F – Determined
A – Follow a reasonable protocol, work out.
R – Get my fittest possible body.

Thanks!