Hi Brooke! So I’m another one who’s been complaining about the lack of awesome dudes out there as I’ve recently started dating and the calibre of online men has left me feeling a little bummed. I’ve decided to switch tactics and go out more instead of doing the online thing and the other day was in a situation where the universe pitched me a great ball in the form of an awesome dude and I… totally choked. I just didn’t have the guts to speak to him and ended up with a headful of regrets instead of a phone number. My question is- how do I learn from this in a way that is kind instead of beating myself up for ‘being such a pussy’ or believing I’ve missed my chance at a beautiful relationship because I didn’t speak to him?
Here are some thoughts I’ve come up with:
– Even though I didn’t speak up this time, it was a great lesson to know what I will do next time
– I’m learning so much about myself and this is what its about
– When I keep learning and keep growing from my experiences I know I will meet someone awesome.
– This shows me that there are plenty of awesome dudes out there
– I’m a badass and any dude I speak to is one lucky man

Would love any more thoughts you might have? Thanks so much!