I don’t know how . . .

I don’t know how to remain loving toward my husband when I get triggered with a reaction to what he’s said. This morning, we were putting something together for our son and I said something was not straight and he sarcastically said “Really?” Just that (more stuff going on but just starting here for now) sent me to anger and hatred feelings. Then he asked our son if he wanted to put the stickers on (when our son was kind of out of sorts) and I said “I think he’s just excited to ride the mower right now” . . . and husband gave dirty look and said, “it feels like you undercut me there.”

I seriously don’t know how to get past the feelings of anger / hatred that emerge from things he says rather than choosing to say, “I love my husband.”

Please help