I feel powerless in dating

I came to a powerful realization that I feel powerless in dating and in attracting my soulmate. I used to be in the “wait on God” camp, expecting this guy to show up out of nowhere. Then I took a deep dive into coaching programs. While I’ve grown so much as a person, I still haven’t found him so I feel powerless. It’s like there’s something I haven’t figured out.

C: Dating
T: Attracting my soulmate is out of my hands and beyond my control
F: Powerless
A: Wallow in self-pity, doubt if it’ll ever happen, doubt God, judge men, judge myself, outsource my dating life to coaches and programs, not trusting myself
R: I don’t take control of my dating life. I see God and men as the problem.

Now that I have this awareness, I’m not sure what the next practical step is.