I feel puzzled when my children have outbursts. I want to allow them to express their emotions and understand them but I am not able to.

My son 9 years old sometimes gets an outburst when things don’t go his way like struggling with a subject he finds hard at school or refusing to sit with a tutor at home to help him when the tutor arrives home . I am usually confused what is the proper action to take .

Sometimes I tell him fine we can skip this time . Sometimes I try to get him to sit and take his lesson but it gets uncomfortable for all of us . I feel myself frustrated when he is not willing to listen . I am not sure how to handle situations in a healthy caring way.