When we go to social events, my husband tends to overdrink to the point of being hammered. I find it unpleasant and embarrassing to be around. I have gotten angry so many times about it and he always says the next day that he wishes he didn’t get so drunk, but then he does it again and again. We are going out of town this weekend to a party where I’m sure he’ll be tempted to overdrink and I’m dreading it. I hear you in my head saying, “He’s an adult. He can do whatever he wants” and I agree with that. I just wish I could be at peace about it. I’ve worked the model on it and realize my thought is “he shouldn’t get drunk” and that isn’t reality and is what is causing me pain, but I just can’t figure out how to change the thought. I think the answer is to go home (or back to the hotel room) by myself, but I admit I feel fear when I do that because then I don’t know what’s happening. I know I have to let him be him; I just don’t know how to enjoy being around him when he’s being “drunk him.” I get that my pain is being caused by my thoughts and I’m not feeling very compassionate with myself for having such negative thoughts and making things harder than they need to be. I want to love unconditionally and yet I have so many conditions! Please help.