I Want More From Life than My Friends and My House


I finally think I deserve to upgrade my house and make it beautiful. I’m renovating and investing in it. I’m pretty excited about it. I also only plan to be in the house for 5 more years. My daughter will be 18 then and I will be able to live in a place that doesn’t require a lot of maintenance and has all the features that I desire. A view! A garage for my bicycles! Next to a park! Not on a highly trafficked street! I made the decision to refinance and invest in the house after two friends shared with me that I needed to have a stable place for my daughter (13 yo). At the time, I felt like society was prescribing my decisions to me and I was incredibly resistant to staying in place. I mean, I lived in one location growing up and it was pure hell. To me, home for my daughter is where we are. It’s not like I have interest in moving her out of the town we live in or changing her school. Also, she spends 50% of her time with her father who will never move off his land. Regardless, I want to feel good in this house and be happy here, hence why I like my reasons for staying and investing in it.

Today, I was listening to a replay of one of the Coach Week calls where Brooke was talking about her theory of staying in a job or whatever it is until you are happy before moving on. It occurred to me when I heard it this time, that this is what I’m doing. I’m getting happy with my house before leaving it. I’m super excited that investing in renovations will make it even more valuable when that time comes. Yay, I’m doing it right and I’m happy in my house.

I also want to dream about those features that I want. I can’t change that I want them. I feel like I deserve them. When I think about them, I don’t want to wait 5 years. I want my life in a home with the features I want now. How do I reconcile the two?