I want to take advantage of this time for fun family activities and creating something and my husband is no help


Circumstance – working mom and dad of 3 teens – all at home during the shelter in place
Thought download – we are at home for a long period of time. We should make the most of this time. It would be a shame for us to have this time and not take advantage of that circumstance. Let’s have fun!
If left to their own devices 2 of 3 of our kids would do nothing productive – sitting on phones/video games. Daily structure is important – for mental health – so I’ve given them parameters and they are making their own daily schedule to get school work done, be active, walk the dog, be creative and have downtime to do what they choose.
Their pattern is that they settle into watching tv or kids on their phones at night.

I’d like to have a consistent weekly evening schedule that includes different things for different nights – some ideas – movie, poker, yoga, walk the dog, hike, video dinner with my husband’s family, with my family, dance party/karaoke/game night/trivia etc.
It’s hard to be the “only” cheerleader – my husband doesn’t help with encouraging this, although if you ask him he’d say it is a good idea.

It’s exhausting and difficult to try to do this on my own. I wish he was the type of person who would be enthusiastic about it and encourage participation. I’m happy for him or anyone else in my family to come up with ideas. I’m also frustrated when they just want to sit around.

At the end of this, I’d like to look back and have some fun memories – of making the most of the situation and enjoying it as best we can. I don’t want the months to go by and the memory is “I don’t know what I did. Just sat on phones.” Seems like such a waste.

Can you help with these?

Unintentional model
C Family home during shelter in place
T Structure is helpful during this time. My husband doesn’t participate in creating something positive or encouraging healthy, fun family activities
F frustrated
A continue to do on my own and sometimes give up
R I read or do other things at night and everyone else watches TV or are on their phones

Intentional
C Family home during shelter in place
T
F
A
R We look back on this time and feel fortunate we had fun and accomplished things during a situation.

C Family home during shelter in place
T
F
A
R Our family has fun and does memorable things during this time