Hi Brooke, I’m still in the middle of listening to this Thursday’s podcast…what it takes to succeed. I’m in the middle of listening to Krista’s story and had to stop and do a thought download on idea that she doesn’t wear the death of her husband as an identity. This made me stop in my tracks. I realized that I wear my role as a Marine wife who’s always alone and play it out for others to see. I want their sympathies and compassion…but what does that do for me? I think it just reiterates that life is hard, so confirms my belief. On the flip side, I can chose to believe that this challenging Marine Corp life is for me, not happening to me. So now what does that belief do for me?? My perspective would change from needing sympathy to believing in my ability to take it on and how it continually shapes me into a stronger version of myself. I would never have considered that my current thinking was creating negative results, or that it didn’t serve me. But the new thought of this life is as it should be and is for me is so much better. Wanted to share to make sure I’m on the right track. (Totally minor compared to losing a husband but it was so eye opening for me.)