Identifying my Rs …


Hi Brooke and coaches. This morning, I did a major thought download on the circumstance of how we can only fit our sons’ two carseats in our backseat, which means that our older son cannot have a friend come home from preschool with him because we cannot transport the friend. We only have the one car. It seems so silly that I have so many thoughts and feelings when I write out the sentence above. But, I do. It brought up a whole lot for me from my childhood, and about my son’s future, and about social class, etc. Anyway, I’m having a hard time identifying my R in all my models I did with the many thoughts and feelings I had about this car situation. I listed three models, but there are many more with similar thoughts. All have basically the same Fs. But, I’m having trouble identifying the results. Thanks!

C: We can’t transport a little friend after preschool because we can’t fit his carseat in our backseat with our sons’ two carseats.
T: I wish we had a minivan
F: Shame, embarrassment
A: Spin in thoughts of shame
R: Same as A?? Or ?? Waste time feeling bad for myself and my kid??

T: I hate being the poor ones at the school who only have one car, and not an expensive one at that
F: Same
A: Same
R: ?

T: Should we send our kid to a different school in the future to avoid the shame of being the “poor family?”
F: Same
A: Same
R: ?