Thanks for your answer, and I do absolutely understand that thought would bring a different set of feelings and actions and results.

But what happens when you think “I am in control of whether I get this job, the decision isn’t theirs, it’s mine” – and then you show up amazingly, and then they STILL decide to not hire you (for any number of reasons, maybe some unforeseen circumstance that had nothing to do with how amazingly qualified and valuable you were in your actions)

My brain doesn’t know how to reconcile the thoughts that would come after that.
1. T: “I am in control of whether I get this job, the decision isn’t theirs, it’s mine”
2. Don’t get the job
3. T: “I wasn’t in control after-all. This circumstance wasn’t in my control”

Can you offer some alternative thoughts after thinking “I am in control of whether I get this job” and then not getting the job?
I recently went through an experience like this where I believed SO HARD, and then when the thing didn’t happen, I found my response afterwards hard to understand, and all the coaching I received was about how the thing that didn’t happen was never in my control to begin with, and is a neutral circumstance. So I weary of thinking “I am in control of whether I get this job” even though it feels GREAT and empowering, because of not knowing what to think, feel and do that is in line with that if I don’t get the job for whatever reason.