I am struggling with my thoughts and my feelings when it comes to doing this model that I really feel the need work on.
My unintentional model is below-
C: I am a newlywed (been married for just over 1 year) and my husband started a new job 6 months ago where he travels about 22 days per month
T: why doesn’t he try and be home more so that we can continue making memories / spend quality time together as newlyweds
F: alone and bummed
A: I get upset with him easily when he is home because I am so sad when he’s gone
R: We have more arguments because he loves his job, and I am just not happy with him being gone so much

Intentional model
C: I am a newlywed (been married for just over 1 year) and my husband started a new job 6 months ago where he travels about 22 days per month
T: I get to spend a lot of time doing the things I want to do, when I want to do them
F: Independent and busy
A: I keep myself busy and entertained while he’s gone
R: We are both happier when he comes home and we don’t argue as much

Where I am struggling is I am afraid I will become too independent, and not “need” my husband. We have been together for 5 years, but before then I was very independent. It seems so weird to think that I should be hesitant to really lean in to the intentional model. Is it wrong of me to think my intentional model could potentially hurt me in the future?