I’m all alone / I’m not alone 3


Thank you for your answer!

You ask: “What could you be thinking on purpose that would allow you to feel the desired love towards your husband and comfort for yourself?”

I wrote those models:

C: Husband working on his computer saying: “I want to finish this”.
T: This is so nice to live with such an independent man and have my own freedom.
F: Love
A: Take care of my own needs, see how he take care of his needs, kiss him on the cheek or touch his shoulder, see the 50% positive of the relationship with my husband, picture the nice evening I can create, feel love in my body for me, my husband, our home
R: I create a better relationship with my husband

C: Husband working on his computer saying: “I want to finish this”.
T: I choose to be extra sweet and loving to myself tonight
F: Comfort
A: Listen to a coaching call, take a shower, prepare a good night herbal tea, dialogue with my “intuition”, read in bed
R: A nice evening, I create the feeling I want to feel

I guess I’m beginning to understand that I can separate the feeling I want to feel for myself and the love I want to create in my marriage.

I will make an experiment to write 2 intentional models every day next week 1 for the feeling I want to create for myself and 1 for the feeling I want to feel in my relationship.

I observe that I’m judging an action like “kissing my husband on the cheek” as being kind of lame compared to a “real” passionate kiss. Is it that I’m too influenced by all the romantic comedies or books I’ve consumed over the years?