Yesterday evening, I was feeling disappointed and wanted to share with my husband to feel connected to him. He was working on his computer and said: “I want to finish this.”

I went to cry in our bedroom and the thoughts “I’m all alone” and “He’s not there for me” came in my mind. I know now those are just thoughts, and wondered what would happen if I thought: “I’m not alone” and “He’s there for me.”

My models:

C: Husband working on his computer saying: “I want to finish this.”
T: I’m all alone
F: Lonely
A: Cry in the bedroom alone
R: I don’t seek connection, create disconnection

C: Husband working on his computer saying: “I want to finish this”.
T: I’m not alone
F: Connected
A: Sit in the coach in the living room (where my husband is working), take a shower, feel the presence of my husband in the flat, don’t make an argument, don’t spiral out of control in my head, don’t ruminate
R: Create more connection with reality, find more peace in the now

I feel this is a small victory, as my main goal would be to feel really in love and really connected to my husband. But isn’t it the way I will be able to reach my goal, little step by little step? Thanks for your feedback.