I’m not acting like the loving mom I want to be


I had the type of morning where I couldn’t find matching shoes, the kids wouldn’t stop fighting, the dog pooped on the floor.

C: I couldn’t find matching shoes, the kids wouldn’t stop fighting, the dog pooped on the floor, we were leaving late to get kids to school on time
T: Why the hell can’t everyone just cooperate? (essentially why can’t they all just follow their manuals that I have for them?????).
F: Angry
A: Yelling at kids and dogs
R: I am not the mom that I want to be

New model
C: I couldn’t find matching shoes, the kids wouldn’t stop fighting, the dog pooped on the floor, we were leaving late to get kids to school on time
T: This has been a challenging morning. Everyone in my family is just being themselves. Let me take this one problem at a time and we’ll get there.
F: Calm, focused
A: Clear communication with kids
R: I am the mom that I want to be

This is my question, it is easy for me to rationally think about this right now, but in the moment, I am having a challenge with not getting caught up in the first model which is my habitual pattern. At least once a week, I have a morning like this that happens.