Hi. I have been doing some self coaching around urge management and generally ways that I get stuck. What it seems to boil down to is the feeling of impatience that I am not willing to feel. I have thoughts that generate impatience like “this should be easier,” “this is taking too long,” “this will never end,” and “I can’t/don’t want to wait anymore.”

I was hoping that you could give me some guidance on stepping away from impatience and either to calm/neutral, or accepting. I know that it’s my belief that I have bought into through the messages around me that if something is difficult it must be fixed or changed. Or the goal is to get out of it rather than to stay with it. I notice this everywhere, in my exercise, my food, my parenting. The list goes on. Something goes wrong and my brain triggers into fix-it, defensive mode. Looking forward to some help.