Impossible goal

Hi! I hope that you are well! I have joined the Life School Coach two weeks ago and have been listening to the podcasts for some time! It is great! One of my impossible goals is to build a committed relationship with someone who is not afraid to fully explore the relationship and build a loving family in the medium term. I have been dealing with many relationships with people who were not available in the past, and have had difficulties to leave these relationships to avoid the pain and also the feeling of loneliness that scared me so much.

I have done it now. I am not afraid to be alone anymore. I enjoy being with myself and spending time by myself, but I also sometimes feel the pain of being lonely and it’s ok. I accept it. But I would still like to build that relationship. How can I work hard to reach my goal but don’t go back to desperately trying to find someone? Thank you for your help!!