Independent or dependent?

Hi there! So, I am curious to understand the Life Coach School’s philosophy around whether or not we “need” other people. In therapy, therapists talk about unmet needs in relationships and asking a partner to fulfill our unmet needs. I understand here that we meet our own needs and come together with a partner just to love them. I am a single mother of three kids and at the moment do not want a boyfriend, although I do hope that I change my mind some day. I think of myself as independent and not needing anyone but then I was reading someplace recently about how humans do need each other (and it was referring to intimate relationships) and we shouldn’t be ashamed to need others. It’s a hard needle to thread because I am very reclusive and love being alone but wonder and worry that maybe I should need someone. When I think about that thought though, I worry that I I could get hurt again.