Indulgent emotions – lp

Is one of the things that make an indulgent emotion that we don’t want to feel it? Like we try to avoid it or buffer against it and so it sticks around and never fully processes out?

Or is it more like using confusion (indulgent) as a way to keep ourselves stuck because we’re unwilling to feel the fear (unwanted but need to allow) that would come up when we move towards a dream (pride, wanted)?

Confusion – indulgent
Fear – unwanted but need to allow
Pride – wanted

And it’s true that we still want to feel the indulgent emotion but recognize when we’re creating the emotion as a protective mechanism?