Infidelity


I recently found out that my father had affairs, once when I was not quite born, and another time more recently. My parents are still together, and my mother has an accepting way of dealing with these situations. My brain, however, is trying to make sense and find peace. This, I gather, is because I think of infidelity as being unjust, and not right.

Please help me fill these models so that I can move on and be at peace with it all.

Unintentional
C: Father had affairs
T: He cheated on my mother. He lied. He should not get away with it.
F: Sad, embarrassed
A: Go over it in my mind, “seeing images” I don’t want to see
R: ?

Intentional
C: Father had affairs
T: He can do whatever he wants
F: Acceptance? Peace?
A: ?
R: ?