Invalidating Partner Vs Manual


My questions is trying to understand the concept of Manual, so when I expect my partner to validate my wants, needs and emotions, is that a kind of manual type expectation that I have from my partner or is it fine to expect this from a partner?

The confusing part is, manual concept implies, don’t expect anything from your partner, just be independent and manage your own thoughts and emotions but sometimes I do feel good when my partner can just say it is going to be okay or says he is there for me. So I keep wondering what is the right way to go about managing your expectation from your partner.