I just read the question about the lady that was judging all the time. You told her to not judge herself and get curious about why she is having these thoughts. I have spent a few years growing more and more irritated at everything my husband does. I’ve now found your work and am ready to change. I’ve been trying to figure out why I think these thoughts (He’s irritating me on purpose. Why can’t he chew with his mouth closed? He is stupid if he can’t learn that. His mom is stupid for not teaching him how to chew. Why does he have to talk so loud. etc.) Do I try to figure out WHY I have these thoughts? By being curious and observing until the answer comes? Or continue to run my thoughts through models and retrain my thoughts/patterns? Any advice, specific questions to ask myself, etc would be appreciated. Thanks!!