C: daughter (she’s 4)
T: people think I’m not caring for her properly.
F: Hurt
A: pretend not to notice when she needs personal grooming (hair brushing etc)
R: I’m not caring for her properly.

New model:
C: daughter
T: people think daughter looks well turned out
F: Pride
A: 1. I choose her clothes in advance. 2. We do regular bathes for hair washing. 3. We brush hair often 4. I make sure she has a good winter wardrobe.
R: make time to attend to her personal grooming.

Is Hurt a Feeling here?
Is there a more specific feeling this could be instead?