I just read this is in the Ask a Coach section: Is it possible that certain people require less “thought work” than others? When I think about this, it is certainly a belief that I have–that some people/relationships do require less thought work for me than others. Given that I want to be in as best of place as possible, logic says I would want to seek this people out –ie maximize friendships with those sorts of people. So applying concept to another situation: if I were in a marriage with someone, and after a few years started to find that the relationship/person was requiring too much thought work, such that I wanted to end the relationship, that all seems logical and reasonable to end the relationship, right? But then I wonder: what does it take to not have the pattern repeat itself?