My husband and I are considering going through another round of IVF. This will be our second and, if we go through with it, we will have spent $50K on fertility treatments. I was texting with my best friend who has also gone through two rounds of IVF about our possible decision. I mentioned the $50K and she responded, “I know it’s a lot of money. We were freaked out when we went through it the second time.”
I know that they have not spent nearly the money that we have on IVF because her job insurance covered a considerable portion of the cost.
I felt very resentful towards her when she texted what she did. I did not react to it, because I recognized that her words were my C but I can’t seem to shake that resentment.
C: Rachel texted “I know it’s a lot of money. We were freaked out when we went through it the second time.”
T: She doesn’t know because they haven’t spent that kind of money
I continued texting with her and I don’t feel like I have distanced myself from her but I definitely keep replaying it in my mind and can feel the frustration and resentment festering.
I want to shake the resentment. I don’t want to feel resentment towards Rachel, she’s my best friend. I love her. I also know that her IVF journey was very difficult. She experienced a failed transfer and a miscarriage- it’s not as if she hasn’t gone through a lot.
How do I shake the resentment?