Judgement on other women: Incongruent behaviours

I posted something the other day about women recognising their magnificence. A woman posted ” I always do”. My brain went into collecting all the evidence from our past interactions when I didn’t think she was in congruence with that idea. Like, she had told me how she feels intimidated, remains in her shell, feels fear to try things that she wants to, doesn’t really go for big goals. My brain is offering thoughts like: Well, you are pretending like you do but you don’t really.

There is a feeling of entitlement too. But I am feeling bad about all these thoughts and judgements. What’s going on here?