Judging myself

OK, so working on myself this week. And the first day of course is judging myself. So I’m in my 50’s. When I was in my late teens, I suffered from a terrible depression. One of the outcomes was that I made a rule for myself. My rule is “I am the kind of person that can’t be allowed to berate herself.” So I have spent 30 years practicing shutting that crap down cold. Good news is, I mentally refuse to write negative self talk. So I wrote things like “I would prefer to keep a neater house. I would like to learn how to be more present.” OK so far. But here is the thing, my husband will say to me “You always say you’re not good enough or doing enough.” So I must be allowing myself to do this in conversation but not in my inner dialogue. What is the best way to catch these thoughts?