On Question #2 when you write how you can change your mind about something and make it great… Am I taking what was not great and changing what happened or somehow believing that what DID happen was great?
For example, my Intentional Model was this:
C toddler peed on the new rug
T He needs me to be a calm and confident leader; I’ve got this.
F secure & unwavering
A Clean up rug
R Avoid being angry + snappy, move on with our day
But – that’s not what actually happened – that’s what I COULD (Should?) have done. Should I somehow create an intentional model + Story based on what did happen? I snapped at him, got irritated, he had a tantrum… etc. If so, how can I turn into snapping at him, being angry into a “great” thing?
Thanks for clarifying!