Reading your answer below I guess what I mean is I usually assume that people are not telling the truth or they are deceiving me somehow. I am so good at this, you would think that I would win a prize if I figure out that I am being deceived before they can do it more. Like I am some kind of PI for deception.
For example, if a friend says she didn’t see my call, I don’t believe that, I think she didn’t want to call and then I think there is something wrong with me. Or if my boyfriend said he fell asleep and didn’t call me , I assume its another woman there, and so he is deceiving me and I am not worthy of his love. Or if a friend is not asking to hang out, I assume its something they don’t like about me instead of thinking just that they are busy. It seems I just to conclusions that are self defeating and negative more than not.
I see it is repeated behavior and very victim centered but I don’t know what to do about it. I am doing so many models and thought downloads already.
Hi Scholar, with the information provided, it’s difficult to understand what is really going on here. But you could dig deeper by filling out a model. Start by identifying a time that this happened and find out what your thoughts are creating. From there, it will be easier to figure out what resources apply in the SCS Vault.
C: (Identify the facts of a time when you jumped to a conclusion.)
T: (What was the story you told yourself that created fear in this C?)
A: Jump to conclusions/protect myself
R: (You’ll figure out what the result of your actions are here once you know what else you do or don’t do in your A line.)