Kids part 2

I also have a lot of thoughts about my kids always calling for me and “never” for my husband.
I’m having trouble with the R in the unintentional most of all.

C: Kids call for me
T: They always call for me and “never” for Andreas
F: Irritated
A: I snap at kids and act grumpy towards both them and Andreas
R: ??

C: Kids call for me
T: I have a strong relationship with my kids
F: Happy
A: I take time to answer with patience
R: I get a stronger relationship with my kids.