Liking my results


Hi, I am going back to SCS basics to check the things that are not yet fully clear including the use of the model itself, the assessment of an unintentional model and the formulation of an intentional one. First of all, the need/desire to stop and write down an unintentional model normally comes from the fact that we are having some sort of unpleasant experience in our life. We put that experience in the R line and then we get curious of what CTFA lead to that specific experience. In fact, we don’t feel the need to sit down and write models as long as we like our results.

C: some fact in the world
T: my interpretation of that fact
F: the feeling that this interpretation generates in my body
A: the actions that I take starting from them
R: the consequences of these actions

Now, if the result is something that we either like or dislike, it is an interpretation itself. It is not a circumstance but is based on thoughts. My question is this: As soon as we start identifying the result that we don’t like, why/when do we choose to look backwards at the model that produced it and why/when do we instead choose to be ok with that result? My R line could be anything like “I don’t keep the word to myself,” “I overeat,” “I don’t move forward,” “I let myself down”, “I betray my husband,” etc. So again from here instead of strategising how to show up differently next time I could as well find a way to appreciate the R line as it is. Could you please help me clarify this?