Lingering issue after a depression…


I used to have no problem having an orgasm – or even a few. Sex was amazing! But I went through a depression that lasted a couple of years and during that time, I felt so low that sex/feeling sexy/etc. was just not even on my radar. And I started to not feel like having sex. And somewhere in there, I had trouble having orgasms with my partner. I started having some thoughts around it and felt some anxiety around it. The thoughts have been something like, “I’ve messed myself up.” “orgasms are hard for me now.” “This is embarrassing.” “I’m no longer sexy or sexual.” And I worry that my lack of being able to orgasm is having an affect on my partner and his ease/confidence/closeness. At this point the depression has passed, but I still have these lingering thoughts and the orgasm issue has continued. I’d love some insights or encouragement or new thought ideas. I know I need to clean up my thoughts! Thank you so much.