Love Languages

As I understand it love languages are meant to increase awareness of how you like to “receive” love and “give” love. Obviously, we know that you can neither receive nor give love, it’s just a feeling in your body.

But with that said, I think thoughts that make me feel love when my boyfriend does acts of service for me. Yes, that love is coming from my thoughts, but he made it easy for me to think them. In a relationship, would it be reasonable according to the Model and requests and Manuals, etc. to express to our partner what kind of actions make it easy for us to think loving thoughts about them, but not base our emotions on whether or not they follow through?

Or is the entire concept of love languages as unproductive as couples’ therapy suggesting that you “meet each other’s needs”?

I hope this makes sense! 🙂