Love w/o attachment (follow up)

Thank you for that really thoughtful answer and now I feel amazingly powerful because I understand that I am the only one that can feel my love or generate love within myself about someone else loving me. It’s all mine! I think that I am still attaching to the outcome of having this person love me back and I recently noticed myself swinging to the opposite end where I am completely cold to her or ignore her. I want to just be her friend but I think I’m so attached to how I want her to react to me that I’m not really willing to see how she actually does. Is there a thought that might allow me to meet her where she is at and not expect anything more? Maybe it can be a love thought for myself “I love myself for going in her office and becoming a real friend to her” ?