Loving someone VS being in a couple with them

HI ! I’m thrilled to work on my Relationship this month I ! I just finished my homework and it was really good. I totally understand the principles but I have trouble navigating this new model of unconditional love when it comes to my romantic relationships.
Where I get stuck is loving someone VS choosing to be with them or not. The “upside” of having a manual was that it gave me a process to follow when it comes to dating. Getting rid of it feels scary because I don’t know how I will make decisions from now on.
How do I know if I should be with someone or not when I come from a place of self-reliance and unconditionnal love ? (clearly, I’m not there yet, or I would have the answer already…) Thanks !