Making peace with the past and my weight

What happens when your weight has been the entire focus of your life? When I was growing up everything that I did surrounded weight, and or weight loss. If I was heavier I had to hear about it. If I had lost weight then I was praised and still had to hear about it. In fact, my father made a comment when I was a young teenager that I was simply made for comfort only. That in itself discredited every other value that I might have held in my life.

So the question I’m asking is, how do you let that go? When your entire value is centered around your weight?