Brooke,

Please let me know if I am getting closer to modeling correctly:)

Two models:

C: My husband has the habit of making negative comments/observations
T: My husband is unhappy and it is my fault – a good wife has a happy husband
F: Shame and failure
A: I expend mental and emotional energy trying to change his perspective
R: He digs his heels in to defend his thinking, I don’t enjoy being around him, I stop asking his opinion because I don’t want to hear negativity

new model
C: My husband has the habit of making negative comments/observations
T: He is happy complaining. a good wife allows her husband to be who he is without judgement
F: Relief that I am not in control of his interaction/connection/outlook on the world.
A: Let his commentary go unanswered
R: I stay in a place of management over my own emotional well being