My father died suddenly from a heart attack. March will be 4 years but I still wrestle with changes my Mother makes to handle his things

C-Mother gives away Daddy’s tools

T- I am left out of how my Daddy’s tools are distributed

F- Hurt

A- buffer with food while talking to Mother, procrastinate on my own business, cry, ache inside, think about Daddy and miss him,

R-sad , gain weight, cry, ache inside

INTENTIONAL MODEL

C-Mother gives away Daddy’s tools

T- My Daddy isn’t coming back and it’s great that his tools are being used by someone who needs them

F – hurt

A – create a coaching program to help people going through what I”m going through, eat, cry, ache, think how much of a void I have now , miss my Dad so much

R-new coaching program , weight gain

MY QUESTiON IS HOW TO PROCESS THE HURT. EVEN CHANGING MY THOUGHTS ABOUT MY MOTHER GIVING THE TOOLS AWAY I HAVE THE SAME feelings which lead to actions(some) I would like to change