This isn’t really a question, but I’ve been really trying to do the work on emotional child/adulthood and am starting to really see how I’ve shown up so much from emotional childhood. (and I am starting to shift my thought to, “I didn’t understand this concept before, but I am starting to understand this now and show up from a new place).
I created this little mantra and plan to read this day for the next 90 days. I thought I would just share this in case it helps anyone else out here as I believe this is stemming from a new place of emotional adulthood ( I keep using the word 90 days because it came from my responses to a worksheet which was about 90 days):
“For the next 90 days, I am willing to constrain and focus my attention on honoring myself and treating myself with self-respect and self-love by truly committing to doing the work in order to learn how to manage my mind. For the next 90 days I will be willing to get curious about my thoughts, be willing to try to feel and identify my true emotions daily and I will take responsibility for my current results in my life. For the next 90 days, I will continue to remind myself daily and recognize that I am the only one who can change, and that I must do so from an authentic place, one where I don’t try to change others or control circumstances, as neither are in my actual control. I am willing for the next 90 days to commit to having my own back in facing my fears and making decisions for reasons that I genuinely approve of, instead of operating from a place of fear/avoidance/or intimidation. For the next 90 days, I am committed to no longer allowing confusion in my life. For the next 90 days, I will remind myself when it gets challenging that negative emotion is normal and that the brain likes to think old thoughts and default into old patterns, and this is okay, I can recognize this for exactly what it is and no longer attach to these thoughts. For the next 90 days, I will remind myself that a feeling is simply a vibration in my body and will consider how even the worst feeling, when broken down, is not any more uncomfortable than the ultimate and lasting negative consequences/results that occur in my life from avoidance of my feelings. I will remind myself daily that any discomfort I feel occurs simply because of a thought that I have, and is never from something anyone else did or said to me, it is always from my thoughts alone and what I chose to make the circumstance mean to me in that moment in time. I can also choose to have a different thought and one that better serves me at any moment I decide. I will remind myself that the more I can allow discomfort in my life and allow the opportunity for genuine curiosity, the more I am growing and improving. “