Manual for my 15 year old

Yes, it’s true. I had a manual for my 15 year old daughter and well, you can guess how that turned out. I thought that maybe I could just explain one more time exactly how I wanted her to behave and what I wanted her room to look like. I even had her sign a 1 page contract because THAT would really put some teeth behind our agreement.
So, fast forward to the eye rolls, the “sure mom, I’ll sign whatever you want me to sign (wink, wink)” and the suffering I put myself through trying to control her. OMG, what was I thinking. Have I not been paying attention over the past 5 months in SCS?

I tore up the contract, closed my eyes each time I walked past her bedroom and let her be her. I focused on cleaning up my thoughts on my side of the street.

After several weeks of letting her be her, I noticed this week that her bedroom was completely cleaned up and tidy, her bed was made AND I even received a random text from her yesterday expressing how much she loves me, is proud of me and thinks of me as her role model. What?!

It’s so much better to know I just need to control myself and love her for exactly who she is.
Thank you for this!