I previously submitted an Ask A Coach on how I judge my husband for not doing his own thought work and trying to get me to validate him. I did some digging and realized that I don’t really want to support his ideas.

I think that being “supportive” or “encouraging” the way he wants means that I need to agree with everything he says, and it’s not my role to offer blind admiration. I can’t validate an idea I disagree with. He should have known that about me before we got married…

C: Husband says, “I get very little encouragement from you on my job.”
T: If he can’t accept that I won’t agree with everything he says, then he doesn’t understand/love me as I am
F. Stubborn
A: Refuse to change or entertain the thought of changing
Believe I can’t or won’t change
Say I’ll do certain things differently but don’t act on it
Indulge in confusion over what he wants
R. I don’t accept and love him or myself

My ideal result is to have a loving relationship where we can disagree but settle these conflicts quickly. I need to feel loving for this to happen. But I’m having a bit of trouble getting to an intentional model.

C: Husband says, “I get very little encouragement from you on my job.”
T:
F. Loving