My husband and I went back to listen to your podcast on the manual and I wanted to clarify one thing…
The podcast suggests you think about 3 things you wish your partner would do. Then it asks you to imagine if he/she did these things, how would you think/feel…
Do you recommend writing these thoughts down and looking at them on a regular basis regardless of what your partner does? Is the idea to think these thoughts on purpose (because we know that other people’s behavior does not determine our feelings) and detach from the wanting of things to be different? Do you find that you still request kindly from this new place that your partner does do these things you are wishing for or do you let those things go?
Thank you for your help!