Marital Woes: A Tale of Opposites Without Want Matches

My husband is an extreme extrovert and I’m an introvert. I work full time and am starting a new business. He is essentially retired and has very little structure in his day. He complains I say no and don’t want to do what he wants to do, but I am being deliberate to focus on my goals and purpose in my life and my obligations to my employer. His purpose seems to be to say “yes” to as many random things as possible which even results in him breaking plans the two of us have made to spend time together. Our want matches are very few and I am feeling discouraged about our prospects for going the distance in our marriage. I am trying to buy in to believing relationships are in my mind and I can have a better marriage by improving my thoughts. I have worked on this for months but things seem to be getting worse instead of better.