Marriage Issues

My husband and I are having issues in our marriage but my husband thinks we are not having any problems. He says I push him too much to do things and if I just back off and allow him to relax and do his thing everything would be fine. But I constantly feel he is angry with me but he denies it. When I approach him and tell him it’s a problem he denies it and continues to blame me and tells me to fix my behavior. He says I’m the one with the issue and that I should seek the help of a psychiatrist. I can see he is gaslighting me. I feel stuck in this situation. I know his anger is the problem. I want to get to a place where I do not break down every time I try to approach him on this topic. How can I handle this better?