Thank you! Here is my new model.
T A successful marriage means allowing my partner to be who he is without policing his every word and dissecting every situation and relating it to the past
F Open, accepting
A Stop keeping score, stop rehearsing old wounds, stop taking everything so personally, begin to see the tons of good that has been obscured by keeping score, rehearsing old wounds, and taking everything so personally. Live in the Now
R I create a marriage where I show up as me and my partner can show up as himself and there is always love and respect even if we don’t always agree