Mastering the Model #1


Can you review this model and let me know whether I have done it correctly. Especially on the T and R lines? Many thanks in advance.
– Default model
– C: Text message from M: “Can we talk about this tomorrow?”
– T: I do not want to but I probably will
– E: Irritated
– A: I call at a time that is not great for me and I do not listen to what she says and I pick up on all the clues that tell me she does not understand a thing, she is completely depressed and she pumps up all my positive energy. I act defensively. I cut the conversation short. I ruminate over it for days.
– R: I give her the power to decide how I feel

Intentional Model
– C: Text message from M: “Can we talk about this tomorrow?”
– T: I notice that I do not want to talk tomorrow
– E: Curious
– A: I ask myself why it is difficult to talk to her tomorrow? Why it is a problem to talk to her tomorrow? I recall a podcast where Brook explained that the people with whom we have the hardest relationships are people with whom we can grow into our next best version. I decide that she is that person and I will give it a try. I decide to respond when I am ready to talk. I do not justify anything in my response.
– R: I take full responsibility for my actions and inactions