May HW question tzv

This week I’ve been working on the hw using my Mother in Law as the focus. On Day 9, it says to describe the manual, and then what I would be thinking/feeling, and then ends with “notice that you can think and feel these things anyway.”

I’m having trouble with that. Some facts about my MIL include that she loves my grandson to pieces, has mental illness and abuses pain pills. Some of the “thoughts & feelings” I would have if she followed my manual were:

– She’s a resource to me
– I’m lucky to have her
– I feel understood by her
– I feel supported by her

I’m stuck on how I can really believe those thoughts anyway. She’s not helpful or trustworthy. How can I feel understood or supported by someone who can regularly act… loopy/out of it/flakey?

Thank you,
– C