Mean to my Husband

Hi Brooke. I’ve been having a hard time connecting with my husband. He is a wonderful man- like Chris Castillo wonderful (heh). We’ve been together for 15 years. He is super kind, a great dad, smart, funny, supportive….I could go on and on. He works hard and has two full time jobs that supports our family. He works late hours so we never go to bed together. I have been going to bed even earlier now that I’ve committed to losing 30 lbs. I get up at 5 am every morning to do SCS homework and am at the gym by 6. He always feels close to me and loves me unconditionally- no matter how much time we spend together. For me, the less time we spend together, the less I feel connected to him. This leads me to distance myself from him even more to the point of isolating myself from him. I am one of those people who are “all” or “nothing”. I am a recovering drug addict (5 years clean) and I tend to be extreme in everything I do, feel, think and act upon. When I found your podcast, it was as though I had found gold. You have helped me so much, and now I need some clarity on thinking about my husband and our relationship in a healthy way. In my heart, I know he is one- of- a kind, hands down the kindest, most gentle man I’ve ever known. I’m tired of being a bitch to him, pushing him away and not experiencing love with him. I know if I changed we could have the most ridiculously fun life together. The model has worked on every situation I have written down and I always feel and see things so differently afterwards….but I’m having a hard time doing a model on my husband and having different thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. I’m not even sure if he is the circumstance in this situation. Any advice would be most helpful. Thanks again lady, you rock and am so grateful for you. -Darcy

T- I need to realize how wonderful he is and stop being such a bitch to him
F- pressure and anxiety
A-Distance myself from him
R-Don’t connect

T- I choose to love Justin all the time
F- Love
A- Show affection and respect
R-Happy marriage