Hi wonderful coach,

I’m working on my thoughts about an upcoming mediation session with my exhusband around our parenting plan. This is an existing parenting plan that he feels I am not following properly. He has requested the mediation. I have lots of thoughts on this because we’ve had other rounds of mediation over the years.

C- Parenting plan mediation session
T- Mediator won’t be able to facilitate effectively and Mark will get whatever he wants.
F- Vulnerable
A- I’ll make concessions to keep myself safe.
R- I feel violated and convinced the mediator didn’t mediate well.

I’m noticing that my A line is also a thought (I’m thinking some actions will keep me safe). Any input on this?

Here’s the thought model I want:

C- Parenting plan mediation session
T- I am able to differentiate his actions/words from my feelings. I can articulate my wants.
F- Empowered!
A- I stay calm and grounded during mediation. I learn something during it that I can use for my personal growth.
R- I am empowered in future interactions with him. I better communicate with him because I am not afraid of his words or actions.

Any insights on this one?

Any recommendations on a practice for getting this new thought cemented in my brain?

Thanks very much!